Dealing with Anger
A woman in her late twenties came in for therapy. She reported that she would periodically lose her temper and alienate her friends. Her co-workers had a tough time with her and she had lost boyfriends over this. We talked at length about her life growing up and the near constant anger and loss of control in her family.
We talked about the real frustrations she was going through at present and how she was unsuccessfully dealing with them. She would fall back on rage, because that was the only tool she had learned to use when frustrated.
She developed the capacity, in her therapy sessions, to give voice to her frustration and irritation. We discussed new, more appropriate ways of expressing her anger. She learned how to become more positively assertive with people who were frustrating her.